INTERTWINEDIVINE

Have you ever caught yourself thinking: Who even am I anymore? What do I actually like? How did I get to this point?

First—this isn’t a failure. It’s a signal. Growth, grief, survival, expectations, and plain old life can bend us. The fact that you notice is the beginning of rediscovery, and that’s worth celebrating!

Below are ten practical steps to help you reconnect with yourself. These aren’t quick fixes, but small, consistent ways to bring your real self back into the spotlight.

1. Brain Dump Daily

First thing in the morning, write down whatever is in your head for at least three pages. No edits, no filter.

This clears the static so you can move through your day lighter. It helps you spot patterns, understand your desires, and practice journaling. The petty and angry thoughts lose their grip when they’re on paper instead of in your mind.

2. Take Yourself on Weekly Solo Dates

If you’re a people pleaser, solo dates are a game changer. You’ll learn what you actually enjoy without other people’s opinions shaping your choices.

Go thrifting, see a movie, try a new café, or visit a museum. The important part is making time for yourself and noticing what tries to get in the way—friends, family, or your own excuses.

3. Do a Monthly Audit

Once a month, reflect on what worked, what didn’t, and how you can make life easier.

Celebrate small wins so it doesn’t feel like punishment. If you missed a goal, treat it as a lesson instead of a failure. For an easier monthly review, try weekly mini-audits to track progress in real time.

4. Listen to Your Inner Child

Your playful, creative side still exists. It just gets buried under responsibility and “being an adult.”

Notice when you shut down fun ideas or label them silly. Instead, lean into them. Go roller skating, paint, play a game, or do something lighthearted. Often, ignoring your inner child shows up as outbursts or burnout. Honoring it helps you feel whole again.

5. Create Grounding Rituals

Your nervous system craves predictability. When every day feels chaotic/uncertain, your body doesn’t feel safe.

Start small with one habit in the morning or evening, like drinking water right when you wake up or lighting incense before bed. Over time, build up your routines so you always have something to fall back on when life feels heavy.

Rituals send the message: I’ve got me. I’m safe. I’m cared for.

6. Identify Negative Core Beliefs

Most of the time, we stay blocked because of subconscious beliefs like “people will judge me,” “my ideas aren’t good enough,” or “someone else already does it better.”

These beliefs aren’t facts. They usually come from childhood, culture, or fear-based voices. Challenge them, reframe them, and choose better ones. Audacity—not perfection—is what moves dreams forward.

7. Sit With Your Thoughts

Phones, podcasts, and constant entertainment keep us from ever sitting in silence. The problem is, silence is where your true self speaks.

Try driving without music, working out without headphones, or simply staring at a wall. At first it feels uncomfortable, but over time it builds self-awareness and clarity.

8. List 20 Things You Enjoy and Do Them Again

Write a list of things you love but rarely do anymore. Add the last date you did them, then start adding new dates as you bring them back into your life.

This list can also fuel your solo dates and remind you of your joy.

9. Move Your Body Daily

I used to hate exercise, but everything changed when I decided it was part of my identity. Movement doesn’t have to mean the gym—it can be yoga, a walk, or even stretching.

Daily movement clears stagnant energy, boosts your mood, and strengthens your confidence. Start with ten minutes and build from there.

10. Stop Doomscrolling

Constant scrolling depletes your energy, steals your focus, and keeps you comparing yourself to others.

Choose intentional scroll times as rewards, not habits. Notice how you feel after scrolling—energized or drained? Curate your feed so it inspires you instead of distracting you.

Your mind can’t create its own vision if it’s always watching someone else’s.

Final Thoughts

This may seem like a lot, but don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to do everything at once. Start with one or two steps and let the process unfold. Even just contemplating change is a step worth celebrating!

Here’s your quick list to screenshot:

📝 Brain dump daily

🌹 Weekly solo date

📓 Monthly audit

🫶🏻 Listen to your inner child

🕯️ Build grounding rituals

🧠 Challenge negative beliefs

🧘🏼‍♀️ Sit with your thoughts

☀️ Do things you enjoy again

🏋🏼 Move your body daily

🙈 Stop doomscrolling

Most of these ideas are inspired by The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, a book I highly recommend if you’re serious about reconnecting with your true self! I hope this inspired you to do something for you today!

Talk soon bestie!!! 💋

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